“There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.” ~ Plato
If you turn on the news lately it is easy to justify your rising blood pressure. And if you couple that with searching for the elusive next job or career then some righteous anger seems all the more acceptable.
But here’s the thing- it’s really not. Anger is one of the most destructive emotions and it rarely leads us to anywhere positive. According to Dr. Bernard Golden, author of the book, Overcoming Destructive Anger, anger is basically fool’s gold. “[A]nger can give you a cortisol rush that makes you feel alive and energized. It can also help you avoid taking responsibility for your own decisions, since anger is a way of blaming others for your suffering. Plus, anger can temporarily give you what you want: It can distract you from pain…”
So what do we do about it? If what we are angry about is something we have control over then we have to try to fix it. If it is out of our control then getting upset is really just counter productive. We need stop being mad and start getting busy on the next task at hand.
For instance, say you sent your resume and contact info to dozens of recruiters and heard nothing. What is in your control? Redesigning you resume so that it is a fit both for ATS and human readers, as well as networking with recruiters on LinkedIn. What is not in your control? Whether or not recruiters message you back. Do your best, dot all the I’s and cross all the T’s. Then, don’t get mad, just move on to the next group of targets.
Believe me, I am not saying this is easy, and I am as guilty as the next person in letting situations completely frustrate me. However, it helps to take a step back and look at things objectively. Don’t let your anger at the situation beat you.